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Why Idealizing People Is No Good For You

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We often mistaken humans for divine creatures, we think they are flawless; no flaw is inserted in their codes. We can’t accept the fact that these beings are just as human as any of us. We usually tend to idealize celebrities, public figures, family members and loved ones. We often meet any humane act from the people we idealize with complete skepticism and disgrace, “how could they do something as humane as that?” we may wonder to ourselves, but do we wonder as often what is so bad about being simply a human?

Celebrities and public figures are usually criticized and shamed for doing anything we might see as unusual or committing the minimal mistakes; for example: some actresses here might be criticized for getting certain haircuts or tattoos; or dating and getting married to someone. We can easily spot all the celebrities who got shamed for really weird things, like Sheeren Abd AlWahab for getting married or Horrya Farghly for going under cosmetic surgeries after being a victim of a horrific horse accident.

Not only do we practice idealization on celebrities and public figures, but also on the people we love the most or the people we just met and believed we instantly clicked with body and soul; what we aren’t fully aware of is that idealization only happens inside our heads, you can’t reflect or force it on people.

We get too much indulged in our own thoughts and emotions, however, we can notice it when we idealize someone so much; and there are few things you can remind yourself of when you practice idealization to snap yourself back to reality:

We are all humans after all:

No one is born divine, no one is meant to behave and react in a perfect way. What’s more, your idea of perfection is different from anybody else; the idea of right or wrong is subjective. People have the right to make the choices that make them happy, they make choices regarding their looks, beliefs and lifestyle according to their own preferences not your definition of perfection and certainly not to satisfy your idealization. Live and let live, and let humans do whatever they want with their lives unless they hurt others.

Everyone makes mistake:

Even you! You yourself make mistakes, you even sometimes cause people pain intentionally or unintentionally. We are humans, that’s what we do, we make mistakes; no one lives their entire lives mistakes-free; how do you expect people you idealize to not make any mistake? It doesn’t really make sense, does it?

They aren’t what you think they are:

Idealizing makes you build that picture-perfect idea of that person, and that picture perfect is definitely untrue. While you are keeping yourself busy idealizing and building a fictional idea of person, you are missing getting to know them in real life, you aren’t giving them or yourself the chance to be simply humans.

Idealizing leads to disappointment and sometimes heartbreak. When we idealize so much, we expect so much as well; and when our high expectations aren’t met, we tend to feel desperate, and sometimes our feelings go as extreme as betrayal.

If you find yourself idealizing people, start noticing your pattern and always remind yourself: no human is divine.

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The Oscars Will Be Held In-Person Telecast and Not Virtually

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According to a report from Variety, the Oscars 2021 will be held in-person telecast and not virtually!

The Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences has pushed the 73rd Academy Awards ceremony to the 15th of April next year, because by spring the theaters would be open again; allowing more movies to compete in the awards.

“The Oscars in-person telecast will happen,” Variety said on Tuesday, quoting a representative from the Academy.

“The Academy has done a walkthrough of the Dolby recently to see all the multiple options,” the report added, citing an awards publicist familiar with the situation.

The academy will of course be forced to cut down the number of attendees.

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Catch The Arab Premiere For Short Movie Henet Ward During Cairo Film Festival

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Egypt’s short movie ‘Henet Ward’ will have its MENA premiere at Cairo Film Festival, where it will compete with other movies.

The movie has participated in more than 95 international festivals around the world in (50 different countries) including 20 festivals that qualify for the Oscar and BAFTA and the film has won 12 international awards since its world premiere in the official competition of the “Clermont Ferrand International Festival” in France.

The movie is directed by Murad Mostafa and will be competing in the Cairo Film Festival.

Henet Ward tackles the life of “Halima”, a Sudanese henna painter living in Egypt. She goes to one of Giza’s local areas to prepare a bride for her wedding and her 7 years old daughter “Ward” accompanies her and starts to wander around and discover the place.

The movie also stars Emad Goniem, Halima, and Hagar Mahmoud, among others.

The following are the screening times for the movie:

Arab premiere
Sunday December 6th | 3:30 PM | Hanager cinema hall in the Egyptian Opera House

Playback
Monday, December 7th | 1:00 PM | Odeon 2 cinema downtown

Share with us what you think of the movie when you catch the premiere!

 

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Matkhafeesh App: Designed to Combat Sexual Harassment

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The ‘Matkhafeesh’ initiative has launched a new application to stand by women against sexual harassment and provide them with legal, psychological and social support.

Salma Medhat Shaaban, co-founder of the initiative, said “The application is a digital way to battle the rising rates of sexual harassment in Egypt.”

“We depend on the information provided by the victims anonymously. The user can enter the data of the place, and the degree of the harassment she faced without asking for her identity.” She added.

“The flow of information can give us accurate statistics to help activists and organizations in order to battle this phenomenon,” she described.

“This helps us in setting accurate and updated areas that witnessed sexual harassment. That information will be sent to the concerned authorities to form a protecting campaign and rising awareness initiatives,” Shaaban indicated.

There will also be a number of expert staff of lawyers with experience in dealing with such cases.

“The lawyers will be well selected, the process of interviewing the lawyers to make sure of the quality of the service,” she expressed.

Women will also get the chance to seek help from professional therapists, who are there to provide mental and psychological support.

 

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