I have always felt sorry for things that I have no control over, but found myself apologizing for anyway. Because guilt is a human instinct, but to an extent and then it starts getting unhealthy, when you start doubting yourself, your morals, when you start doing things unwillingly just because you feel sorry. It is then that you have to hit pause, and ask yourself ‘What are you sorry for?’
Accept that some things aren’t your fault and that you shouldn’t feel the need to be sorry for them; because sometimes all you need to do is for you and others to adjust to those things.
What follows are what you definitely shouldn’t apologize for…
1- Falling out of love
You have promised each other eternity, to always be there. But you also promised each other honesty, and sometimes things just don’t go the way we want them to. Falling out of love is no one’s fault, it takes courage to admit and walk away instead of deceiving that person and hanging to a thin thread of hope that you somehow might regain your feelings. But true feelings don’t temporary fade away.
So let go, because one day, they’ll thank you for it.
2- Being upset over little things
Your feelings are yours to sense, your problems, no matter how small they might seem, should never belittled or made fun of. We all suffer in different ways, and our capacities of handling things differ from one another.
If someone can’t handle you at your worst, it is definitely not your fault. You’re not too much to handle, you are just incorrectly handled.
3- Cutting off toxic people
It doesn’t matter how long you have known each other, or how close you are, a toxic person drains you. They drain your energy, they take advantage of your love, and they don’t give back as much as they take. Cutting them off doesn’t necessarily mean you have given up, it just means you have tried your best till there was nothing left to do.
4- Saying ‘No’
I sometimes find myself doing things involuntarily, just because I can’t find it in me to say no. But lately I have been practicing it, and you should do. So speak it out, ‘No to a hangout you’re dreading, no for a job you despise, no for things that push your limits.’
5- Having your priorities set straight
It’s not just okay to know where you’re heading, it’s incredible! So never go off track, just to please someone else. The more we grow up, the more we give up on things that no longer push us forward, and that’s more than alright to do.
6- Having a ‘Me’ time
Enjoying solitary time doesn’t make you a loner, enjoying the company of your book on a weekend doesn’t make you a geek, stop defining yourself based on what people might or might not think of you. If someone doesn’t respect YOUR own quality time and personal space, it is their fault not yours.
You’re not sorry, you’re just human.