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A Reality Check For All 23 Year Olds

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On the morning of my 23rd birthday, I felt like celebrating was such an awfully shameful thing to do. I was lost, I was dead broke, I didn’t know what I was doing with my life, I was lonely and I was scared. The number 23 sounded like a truck with no brakes was approaching weak, fragile me. And all I could do was just stand there paralyzed, and completely give in to the idea that this just might be it. The fall.

Every candle on the cake was a representation of all the things that I haven’t achieved, all the money that I haven’t yet made and all the dreams that I was going to dump in the trash in fear of failing if I ever do start. Yes, I was indeed a mess. A 23 year old fuck up.

Or at least that’s what I thought.

Then the year started, and let me tell you; things only got worse from there. I didn’t get it. Every time I told myself that it couldn’t get worse, somehow it did. Bad shit just snuck in and found its way to me. Then something happened, not a miracle no, there wasn’t a savior who came along and turned my life around either. I made a damn choice, that’s all. That is what being 23 is all about, making a choice. A choice between surrendering to the idea that things are never going to get better and actually MAKING them better.

The first choice I made was…

Accepting:

Accepting that you are in a shitty phase in your life at the moment. Not because you suck as a person but because this is how things are and this is how life is right now. Things never stay the same, if you’re having a bad day, that doesn’t mean that you’re going to have to deal with a bad life until God knows when. If you deny that fact (Yes, it is a fact), you probably won’t be able to move forward. Accept and move on.

Changing:

Changing the things that you clearly don’t like about yourself. For instance, I had a very bad habit of always managing to bring myself down. I’d be having a conversation with a friend and suddenly start telling myself how much of a failure I am; in my head. I had a tremendously flawed attitude toward myself. When I first thought about changing that mindset, I deeply thought that it was an incredibly stupid idea, until I realized it wasn’t because guess what? IT WORKS. It works so well, and that is a promise. When you take the initiative to change the way your head works, you’ll understand how much earlier you needed to do it. All it takes is one damn decision, a decision to stop talking yourself down, a decision to start supporting yourself and your ideas. A decision to stop being so hard on yourself and giving yourself a break. A much needed one. A decision to stop criticizing every word you say and every move you make.

Re-evaluating:

Now, this one is tricky. It’s tricky because it needs a lot of thought and decision making. Basically, what you have to do is have a long sit-down with your brain and start thinking about the good things that you like about your life and the bad things that you don’t. You think about the people who surround you, the supportive best friend, the toxic relationship, the abusive boss (If you a have job)…etc. And then you start eliminating. It is hard, yes, it is indeed the hardest but also the most rewarding. You have got to learn how to walk away from all that doesn’t benefit you anymore, the people you keep in your life only because you’re too scared to go out there and find other people who might actually treat you better, or love you better, or respect you better. I’m not saying that you should trade in your heart for a shredding machine, I’m saying that if you don’t feel it, don’t stay.

Re-inventing:

Re-inventing yourself is a BIG must. I’m talking about re-constructing your whole image as a person. Not for people, but for yourself. If you feel like you would like to be able to contribute more during conversations, then read more. If you feel like you’re growing bored with how you look, then go get a haircut. If you don’t like the way you go blank every time someone talks about films, then start downloading that list of the Top 50 most important films in cinematic history. Basically, HELP YOURSELF. Help yourself become the person that you one day aim to become. Don’t just sit there on your ass waiting for some sort of miracle to happen, it won’t. If you’re not planning on going after it, then stop complaining so much about it.

Challenging:

You have got to challenge yourself sometimes or else you’ll live and die in that comfort zone of yours. Maybe take that job that you’re so scared of taking because you feel like a totally unqualified moron with a bad case of imposter syndrome. If you can afford to do it, try traveling alone, be it abroad or just a few days outside the city. Go and be with yourself, get to know who you are, maybe you’ll end up liking yourself more or maybe you’ll end up feeling lonely, who knows? But the thing is, you never will if you never actually try. So, please do yourself a favor and try. If you absolutely hate it, then you can always go back to what you know. Just give it a Goddamn try, already! Great things sometimes come from pushing yourself into the unknown. Uncertainties are scary, I know but they can be a beautiful thing, as well.

And finally, you have to know that nobody figures things out at 23. You don’t have to be a millionaire by 23, you don’t have to conquer the world by 23 and you certainly don’t have to find love at 23. The only thing you have to be at 23 is yourself. Because only then will you be able to start putting the pieces together. You can’t start with a bad base, now,  can you?

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Egypt to Built A Railway Line Connecting Egypt to Sudan

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Minister of Transportation, Kamel el-Wazir has announced that Egypt is building a 6,000 km railway line that will connect Upper Egypt with Sudan, in order to facilitate the transfer of Egyptian exports to Sudan and from there to central Africa. 

The railway line will begin at Abu Simbel city all the way to the Sudanese town Abu Hamad, the construction will take around 36 months and a transitional station will be built in Wadi Halfa in the northern part of Sudan.

Just recently, President Abdel Fatah Al-Sisi met with Sudan’s Prime Minister Abdalla Hamdok in Cairo, during which he stressed on his full support to the security and stability of Sudan and the choices of the Sudanese as well.

Egypt is keen to make sure that Sudan returns to its normal role on the regional, Arab and African levels,” President Al-Sisi said.

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Israa Al-Ghareeb: A Story of Monstrosity and Cruelty

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Israa Al-Ghareeb, a 21-year old Palestinian victim, victim of cruelty and injustice in a world who wrongfully views honor, a victim of cold blooded murder by her very own family members…

The incident provoked the entire Arab world who till this moment are still sharing her story and flooding the internet with the hashtag #كلنا_اسراء_غريب, and now everyone knows the case of this young lady and how she was killed over a family dispute.

 

 

 

Here’s the story of Israa Al-Ghareeb, and what the action that must be taken. 

Israa Al-Ghareeb is, well was, an aspiring makeup artist who recently she got engaged and one day she went out with her fiancé and her sister to get to know each other like any newly engaged couple, and to document the moment, the sister took a video of both Israa and her fiancé.

Hell let loose when the video was shared with Israa’s father and brothers by her cousin, filling their minds with lies and that Israa is dishonoring the family’s name. The lies that led her father and brothers to brutally hit her, causing her a fraction in her spine which lead to her hospitalization.

Later, her father and brothers came back and continued to hit her and one nurse was able to record the beating and her screaming for help. In the end, Israa got hit in the head which caused a heart attack and resulted in her death… a brutal one.

The ones who are supposed to protect, ended up to be the ones who kill. The ones who were supposed to be her safe haven, let hell loose on her.

Now, this is surely not the first case and shamefully won’t be the last as long as this is the mentality of so many parents and siblings who believe this is the way to honoring their name. This is nothing but pure monstrosity, one that no religion ever called for and is nothing but sexist traditions that are not part of any religion.

Justice must be sought by sharing Israa’s story, spreading awareness about the case and plead for people’s to understand. Understand the unfairness and cruelty that girls go through in our Arab world, and in order to put limit to it, there must be strict laws and rules that put an end to family abuse.

 

We pray to god for Israa and any young lady suffering a similar fate.

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AU commissioner Amani Abou-Zeid Chosen Among 100 Influential Women in Africa

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The leading PR and Rating firm ‘Advance Media‘ has included Dr. Amani Abouzeid, African Union Commissioner for Infrastructure and Energy H.E. in the list of 100 Most Influential African Women in 2019.

This is gives up such pride as Dr. Abou-Zeid is the only Egyptian woman to be selected in this prestigious list that features inspirational women of whom are considered to have done an outstanding job in inspiring the next generation of African women.

The list represent 100 women from 35 different African countries, who are contributing positively in the community and are changing the feminine narrative.

The list includes presidents, diplomats, board chairs, CEOs, commissioners, scholars, politicians and philanthropists, notable among them are: Ethiopia’s President H.E. Sahle-Work Zewde, Liberia’s Vice President H.E. Jewel Taylor, Namibia’s Prime Minister Rt. Hon. Dr Saara Kuugongelwa-Amadhila, United Nations Deputy Secretary General H.E. Amina J. Mohammed and former presidents, H.E. Ellen Sirleaf Johnson and H.E. Catherine Samba-Panza. 

In addiction to featuring young female activists such as AU Youth Envoy Aya Chebbi, Farida Bemba Nabourema and Ilwad Elman.

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