In the year of 2018 there are still brilliant people who believe that they can change their couple’s habits, behaviors, even emotions. That’s why their marriages turn into competition to force their partners to fit into “the” perfect frame they imagine. Your family Vs us becomes a famous arguing issue. If you think your partner is jealous of your family, why not start looking at your marriage life from a different perspective?!
If he/she is not a family person don’t try to change it!
IF you’re all for family gatherings and dedicate a good deal of your time for family activities, then for God’s sake choose someone who like it too. Don’t chose to be in a relation with someone who adores his isolation and have minimal family contact and then try to change him/her.
If you are already married, and this is the case, try to make some balance. Please realize that trying to change your partner’s concept of family gatherings will lead to nothing but BIG Fights.
Balance is the magic word
Hence, we seek balance. If your partner thinks your family is taking too much space of your life, listen to your partner. It’s an indirect cry for more attention. Reschedule your weekly plans to have more private time with your partner and also keep family time in your plans.
Do some effort and think creatively how to spend your private time with your partner exploring new stuff every time. Make it good quality time for both of you, even if you were just staying home together.
Ask your family to respect your privacy.
It’s your right to ask your partner to accompany you to family gatherings. If he/she really hates it, he/she can come for a short time, and then allow him/her to leave early. You can stay longer by yourself and enjoy your family time without torturing your partner.
Explain to your family that your partner is not into big gatherings, and ask them to respect his privacy.
Family bonds aren’t breakable
Before we carry on let’s make one point clear. Always bear in mind that no one should abandon their family for the sake of marriage. Plus it’s hard to happen because this is the family your partner spent his first twenty or thirty years of life with. Together they have strong bonds that is insane to try to break them. Think about embracing them, and what good family-relation qualities your partner can bring into your marriage.
Could it be my fault?!
If you think your partner is too attached to his/her family after marriage, well this means you failed to create a new fulfilling life together, and that’s why they run back to family to make up for it. It’s your fault.
Create a routine
Play it smart. Think wisely how to create a life style for your small family. We all hate routine, but sometimes it can be very useful (also you can break it from time to time). Plan a routine for your life, especially on the weekends. Consider some time for the bigger family, but more time for your small family only. Think of cool things that you can enjoy doing together.
Make new friends together
This takes time and effort to find a matching couple or group of friends both of you enjoy hanging around with. Imagine living together, eating, sleeping, and going out just the two of you, eventually you will run out of words. Everything has been said. That’s why you need a third party to keep the conversation going. It will help you create a life style of your own. Yet again friends can be part of your life, but it doesn’t mean they are the core of it.
Family is and always will be important especially in a country like Egypt, families are overlapping. It’s a blessing to have a permanent source of unconditional love. With all the respect to the bigger family it’s time to focus on your own small family. Spend time, emotions, and effort to grow it big and strong.
Being jealous of your partner’s family aside from being childish, it actually shows that something important is missing in your relationship with your partner. Find out what it is, and try to solve it. Change will happen naturally and eventually, trying to force change may cost you your partner. Be wise, be patient and do your homework to make your relationship better and stronger. More love, attention and listening can be your secret recipe.
Ashraf Hamdi’s ‘A Voice Note’ Returns With Another Heart-warming Story
Director/ Writer Ashraf Hamdi strikes again with the release of his latest VN14: “Only If Time Was..” and after one year of fans waiting around for another voice note, Hamdi didn’t disappoint and delivered an outstanding piece different than the others but still holds the same magic that we all fell for.
The Voice Note tells once again a love story, one that started with a spark but ended tragically, leaving us all in awe. It’s a story that shows chemistry between two but when bad timing interferes and fate gets in the way, it ends differently than one would have expected.
The Voice Note is featuring the beautiful Aya AbdelHamid and Khaled El Zommor with the voice-overs done by Hamdi and Heidy Ahmed and as usual is written, directed, edited by Hamdi. What makes it even more personalized this time, is that the entire music of the episode was composed from scratch and is courtesy of Ashraf El Ziftawi.
That was Hamdi’s first collaboration with a musical composer and he worked along Ashraf El Ziftawi for 3 months and before that they spent a year composing music for other commercials and work.
The music wasn’t the only highlight of the short film, but also the song at the end that was exclusively written and recorded for it, making the Voice Note more intriguing and special.
We spoke with Ashraf Hamdi regarding these collaborations and he told us how unusual it is for him to do such a thing but he loves collaborating with fresh, young talents and shedding the light on their work.
For those who don’t know, the Voice Note series is the creation of the brilliant Ashraf Hamdi where love stories are told through a voice note. Every Voice Note holds a story and every story was based on a meaningful inspiration.
In his stories, you can find ‘love you didn’t love’ or an experience that you relate to, or maybe a completion of a love story that you didn’t have the chance to completely live.
When asked why the VN14 took so long, his answer was simply that ‘you need to be inspired,” and we are so glad he did. He also revealed that he likes everything in the project to be very personalized, even the cast, he needs to connect with them and love them in a way.
We hope Hamdi stays inspired so we can get to witness more of his magic!
It’s Time You Walk Away When…
I hold my phone every other second, still, not a single word from him. I toss and I turn, not able to sleep, and I start to wonder, is he okay? What is he doing right now? Has he gone home safely? I’ll text and see. ‘No. Stop it. He’s fine not hearing from you.’ My overthinking begins to tell me.
Why is he okay not asking about me when I’m not? Well, maybe because this is my first sign that I should away.
1- They care less than you do
When your relationship starts getting fragile, it is important that the other person assures you that they have equal feelings. That you’re both in this together, and you will work it out, together. It should never be all on you, you shouldn’t be the only person making the effort. So stop being the quicker person to call, and stop worrying so much. Let them do the call, the texting, let them do the fixing. Because again, you’re in this together, or you’re out, you walk away.
2- They always make excuses not to meet
You want to meet up, go over things, discuss it like adults and come up with a plan, right? But it never happens, right? Because they always seem to find an excuse to get out of it, or they simply can’t do this same conversation again. They say they can’t do this fighting anymore, but when you’re fighting for your relationship, then it’s legitimate and if they can’t do it, they don’t deserve you.
3- They can’t be trusted
Relationships can lack several fundamentals, but one thing it should never lack, is trust. It is what relationships are built on, and once it is taken from the equation, the relationship falls. I’m not telling you to give up the second they do you wrong, but to earn your trust again, they should work hard for it, and this chance you are giving them, should never be taken for granted.
4- They are cold
The way they treat you is cold, the way they respond is cold, even the way they smile back at you is cold. This change in behavior can only be spotted by you, and when you start comparing their responses to the way it used to be, this is when you will get your answer.
Never allow yourself to be with someone, who just doesn’t seem to care anymore. Someone who’s keeping you, because they are being selfish, and not reasonable.
5- They exhibit an error in communication
Communication is a key to a healthy relationship, it’s important for the both of you to know that you’re standing on the same ground, that you both feel and want the same thing. It’s okay to experience some miscommunication, but what matters is for the both of you to admit having this issue; so you can work through it and get past it.
Try to allow the space for each of you to speak their minds, with no interruptions AT ALL. Listening is a key to understanding, and accepting that difference in your point of views, is another key.
I can never really tell you for sure that this is your cue to leave, because at the end, it’s not signs that you should follow, it is your intuition. So what does it tell you?
It’s Chocolate/Flower Day!
Today marks the 14th and in case you were too busy to shop the perfect gift, here’s a list of Instagram accounts and places that sell the cutest, most creative flowers and chocolates sets.
And even if you did buy a gift, flowers and chocolates are always a nice plus!
- The Batter Half& Co.
Known for their innovative desserts and customized cakes, the Batter half is making beautiful packages of desserts and flowers, basically a girl’s favorite things.
- Lariba chocolate.
The page is doing a fascinating chocolate related job, there is a variety of innovative chocolate shapes that surely will dazzle your one!
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Dazzle her with chocolate, the best way to say love on Valentine’s Day! LARIBA’s #Valentine’s_Day_Collection. #CHOCOLATE_WITH_A_CHARACTER www.eLARIBA.com #LARIBA #chocolate #LARIBAchocolate #chocolatier #Belgian_chocolate #gifts #collage #occasions #wedding #baby_shower #newborn #giveaways #celebrations #celebrities #corporate #tailored #unique #authentic #exclusive #finesse #luxury #Cairo #Egypt
- Bloom Dose.
They create an elegant mix between chocolates and flowers, the beauty is in balancing between both, and they have done it quite well.
- Box of roses.
Now, this is a personal favor, a box of perfectly set flowers that combines a vintage touch with a modern feel. And just FYI, a box of roses isn’t exclusive to a certain occasion.
They also have the famous Beauty & the Beast flower.
- Keni flower shop.
Another personal favorite thanks to the diversity of their flowers, both in types and colors.
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Forever rose – Special price 2 Days to go… Counting down the days VALENTINES DAY ❤️ #floret #blossom #roses#boxofroses #valentinegift #valentineoffer #valentineday2019 #bouquet #boxofgifts #tulips #blossom#florist #roses #redroses #foreverrose #foreverflowers #valentines #love #forher #giftforher #romance #giftforher
- Voila Dessert Shop.
They offer artistic gourmet chocolates assortment, that are both catchy to the eye and yummy for the tummy!
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Share your love with our indulgent gourmet chocolates assortment.. Happy Valentine's!! . . #voilacreations #excuisitelayers #dessert #dessertshop #voila #chocolatier #sharethelove #valentines #valentinesdesserts #redchocolates #valentines #chocolate #foodoflove #gourmetchocolate #bonbon #chocolatebox #delicious #treats #tasty #cairo #newcairo #delivery #obourcity #golfcity #obcommunity #mohandesin #mohandseen #cairoeats #egypt
Hope this list add an extra flavor to your day. Happy valentine’s and may the odds be in your favor!
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