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How Can Ego Destroy A Relationship/Friendship?

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There was one time when I came across a quote that changed my perspective a bit, quoting, “To be able to truly love yourself and to truly be able to love someone else, you must drop the ego.” And ever since I read those words, I couldn’t get them out and I’ve used it in my daily, everyday life.

This is absolutely fundamental to finding an astonishing relationship, but it’s equally crucial to preserving and continually enhancing a relationship once you’re already in it.

Nothing will wreak a relationship (even the best of relationships) faster than ego.

Here are ways that ego can definitely destroy the relationship and how you you can steer clear of down-falling your relationship.

1. Prevent The Seduction To Protect Yourself: Think about the number of times you’ve engaged with your partner, and whenever things get a little boiled up you start to protect yourself. All you hear is you being attacked, and you immediately go into “self defense” mode. Ego has a wicked way of making you perfect- not in your partner’s eyes, not in the world’s eyes but in your eyes alone. If you see yourself as ”Mr perfect” or “Miss perfect” then you would never have a successful relationship, and ego would wickedly make you think you are perfect. Do you know that when you defend yourself in a fight, what’s really happening is your ego is defending itself?

It also indicates that you’ve started to block the other person. You’ve temporarily stopped listening to the other person.  If someone tells you that they don’t like the way you’ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome. Communication is key in every relationship.

2. To Love Yourself And Someone Else Completely You Must Disconnect The Ego: In order to truly love someone, you must separate your ego from yourself. This is also true if you want to be able to totally love yourself. Now, I know that in a perfect world, we would never be ego-driven. This is not a perfect world of course, so let’s get real. We are all driven by our egos to some extent or another, so let’s acknowledge it and embrace that we need to separate the ego to maintain a truly outstanding relationship/friendship with someone.

3. Accept and give importance to others: it is one of the biggest challenges that we see in relationships. As every human is different from others and their opinions are also differ. It is very difficult to accept the point of views of other and make a compromise on them. If you don’t do so, it kills the relationships. Self-respect is very important for all, if you give importance to others, properly attend them and show affection, they notice it and such things matter a lot for others. This attitude strangers your relationship.

We should have the ability to listen to others effectively besides only speaking. Listening and understanding is the most important part of the successful interaction. We should value the other’s thinking if they right then accept them and if they are wrong then correct them.

4. Your Ego Can Ruin Any Conversation: You must have the ability to communicate others and to attend others in your conversation. So that people properly attend you, listen to you effectively and don’t make assumptions without listening. Most often, we let our pride or ego to take over the conversation. We think that we are already smart enough to even listen to other people. We think that we are better than other people and feel we have nothing more to learn from them. When we close ourselves and stop listening to other people, we are doomed because we stop learning. To eliminate this listening barrier, you have to be more open-minded to listen and learn from other people. Remember that you do not have to agree with everything, but it is helpful if you at least, listen to what they have to say. Effective communication skills have a great impact on your personality. The truth is that no matter how much you prepare, plan and hope for a good conversation with your significant other, your ego is the one thing that will consistently ruin any conversation you’re about to have if you let it.

Giving time to people is a huge gift, in a world where time is the essence; mostly we have no time to give to our loved ones, being present in time you give time to people is a great blessing.

When you truly attend someone not thinking about the past, not worrying about the future, just focus on someone, such connection makes strong relationships.

Everyone has ego; I have ego, you have ego, we all have ego; it’s a natural instinct that’s placed in all humans. Ego isn’t bad per say but the degree of your ego is what can kill your relationship.

Gaining control of your ego is the best thing that you can do for yourself or else it will continue getting in the way of your relationships, your career, and your life.

In order to fully listen to somebody, it’s uncomfortable.  Sometimes your friend/partner has things that are really bothering them or they can’t really express how they truly feel about which they want to talk to you, but which you would rather not hear. To maintain a great relationship, however, you can’t let your ego keep you from really listening.

So the next time you see your ego getting involved in your relationship, get rid of it! If you find yourself defending yourself or not allowing you to really listen, then you need to take a step back. Take a deep breath and pause for a little and start thinking and listening. Listen carefully to what’s really being said, and use it to create such a cherished relationship/friendship.

Nadia Haitham, who is a sixteen year old teenager, fantasizes and creates images in people’s minds using written words. She has always admired the idea of writing ever since she was a little girl with piggy tails and somehow, she’s chasing her dream! Nadia is currently an IGCSE student in The Continental School Of Cairo and she’s in the eleventh grade. They say Nadia is too young but she asks repeatedly, “if I don’t start now, then when?!” She blows her candles on the fifteenth of July, her zodiac sign is Cancer and she’s Egyptian. In 2015, she has written her first completed book that’s called, “Love Of A Teenage Girl” which is published on a writing website called, Wattpad. She has won several awards for the book which she’s planning to publish in the future. Nadia has also written a few other books and created quotes of her own but she hasn’t completed them yet but she’s planning to. She’s into music and learning something new every single day using the help of the social media world. She believes that writing is an underestimated art, it’s exactly like painting colorful images in people’s minds by using words of black and white.

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Rumor has it: The Jonas Brothers are Reuniting and We Can’t Wait

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Good news to all the millenniums out there, your favorite childhood brand the Jonas Brothers are getting back together, and we can feel young once again.

It’s been six years since the brothers have split up; so each of them can do his own thing, six years ago since they have devastated the hearts of many young girls and now they’re making it up for them.

The rumors first started swirling since January 2018 when the JoBros reactivated their Instagram account. Now, according to several US Weekly sources, the rumors are turning to reality. They are however, changing their name to JONAS.

Yet another confirmation came from The Sun, as they announced, “After enjoying solo music success and taking time to work on passion projects, they feel that now is the right time to get back together.”

The Sun also claims that they are heading to London to work on an upcoming project, as well as releasing a documentary soon alongside new music.

Of course, with no official statements from the band, we can’t tell for sure when this is happening but we’re keeping our fingers crossed.

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A journey towards Self-Love Pt2

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A part of your journey towards self-love is to let go of things and people who cause you harm, self-doubt and insecurities. Those who hold you back, instead of pushing you further. You may think you’re in a dark place and should be in there left by yourself, but no, there are people who choose to leave you alone and then there are others who are capable of giving you a hand and pulling you out into the light.

Besides having someone to help you out, it’s you at the end, who are capable of giving yourself the love it deserves, and what follows are simple ways toward doing so:

  • Cut the toxicity out of your life.

This toxicity can be habits or people, the common thing is that both cause you damage that you should be willing to let go of and not feel sorry about it. If you got used to a certain bad habit, try to substitute it with a healthier one, or cut it down a notch.

If it’s people who are causing toxicity in your life, make boundaries or even better rid yourself of their burden, you may still be holding on to them because you have known them for years, but trust me, it’s not worth draining all of your energy. And you’ll realize that once you start to shift this wasted energy from them and towards your own self, that is when you’ll know the relief of letting go.

  • Make a day for yourself.

Take a day for yourself, learn to enjoy your own company. You can go out, have lunch by yourself, go to the movies or maybe make it a spa day. Anything that will help you relax and put your mind at ease. Or you can simply stay home, and do some self-care routines that you surely have been ignoring.

And never feel guilty for taking some time off away from your friends; because this is simply you putting yourself on top of your priority list and it’s nothing to feel sorry for.

  • Keep those who understand you closer.

Stick to those people during your journey, those who understand and value your worth, and sees you for who you really are. They will see things in you, that you’re yet to discover about yourself. They will help you find them and it’s an essential part of your journey, as it is crucial to be surrounded with people who remind you constantly of your worth, and validate your points.

  • Forgive your past self.

In order to kill your demons, you have to confront them first, work on banishing your dark sides with the light of your forgiveness, show willingness to not only fight those demons but to have the power to accept them. Focus on who you want to become, instead of blaming yourself for what you might or might not have done.

  • Exercise.

Loving yourself is accepting it and changing what can be changed to the better. Leading a healthy life can have positive outcomes, on both your mental and physical health.

Eat healthy food, and monitor your change, the results will boost your confidence.

  • Stop focusing on winning people’s approvals.

And try to focus on wining yours! Your approval is the only one that matters, if something makes you happy then do it. Don’t wait around for someone’s permission to do what you love, and you surely don’t have to do what everyone else is doing.

 

 

 

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BBC interviews Al-Daheh Ahmed El-Ghandour

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“Meet the geek behind Egypt’s hit online science show” was the title that BBC has given to its interview with our own Ahmed El Ghandour aka ‘Al-Daheh’, and it gives us pride to have one of our brilliant minds being acknowledged by such a well-known media platform.

El Ghandour launched his science blog back in 2014, and now his channel has clocked up more than 19 million views.

He might just be the only person who is capable of turning science into something fun, accessible and understandable to all segments that follow his blog.

“I love all scientific subjects, never really stuck to learning only one.” Al-Ghandour tells BBC.

And that’s what makes his blog even more interesting, and succeeds in attracting different segments; seeing that he covers topics ranging from evolution to war, from science to history and more.

He describes the character of Al-Daheh as lonely, nerdy and insecure. Always appearing by himself on the show. I believe this is one of the reasons that his blog is succeeding, because the character of Al-Daheh is one that appeals to all and gets you hooked to know more, he always tells the information in a fun, kind of a weird way.

One of the theories on how countries evolve and ways towards gaining sustainable development, is the education entertainment theory. And that is through spreading awareness and  educating masses by means of entertainment. This is why, Al-Daheh is a personal favorite to me, and one of the few influencers to be using his platform in doing his fans real good.

Link for the interview: http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20190215-meet-the-geek-behind-egypts-hit-online-science-show

 

 

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