What you are missing when not showering together after sex?
Remember the fun time you had as a child in the shower, playing with you duck toy and making soup bubbles? Did you ever think of reliving this experience with your loved one? And what it can add to your relationship if you hit the shower together after sex?
We asked a simple question: do Egyptian men/women like to shower with their partner after having sex? Why?
Well, it was very hard to get people to answer, but this is what we got so far:
N, a single lady in her 30s said: “I think women like it more because they want to continue enjoying the moment. But guys don’t care after they had sex”.
H, 36 years old, married for 5 years, said: “No, they don’t like it unless there will be action in the shower. Usually each showers separately after sex because both just want a fast shower and relax.”
M, 44 years old, married woman said”:”Note, the answer is relevant to at which decade of their marriage is the couple. Everything somehow alters with time. So, if we say they’re at the first couple of years of marriage then both would opt to shower together…now fast forward years and kids, etc. then most likely not by both. But Egyptian women like it more so than men. Men have a relentless appetite to the quirky stuff regardless of age.”
S, 38yearsold, lady, divorced two times said:”I don’t think so; it can be before sex not after, because they already got their needs during sex, so no need to shower together. There’s no point of it “
A, 54 years old, married man said: “often they like to shower together before sex because both are hot and up to do things, but after sex they have no power, no desire.”
A, 49 years old, divorced man said:” Well, It’s a matter of preferences. I can’t speak for others. I don’t mind at all … I find it to be an extension of the intimacy. But it all depends on the level of comfort between both partners. Sometimes there’s no shower after sex, or at least not immediately after. Instead there’s cuddling, more sex, or maybe a nap. What I found out from experience, is how sexually dysfunctional Egyptian men and women are. It’s complicated when it comes to intimacy and their own sexuality.”
M, 40 years old, married man said:” As an Egyptian I do, and I’m sure Egyptian women like shower after sex with their partners, but not men. Women consider it romantic, but for men it depends on the “mozza” i.e. how sexy is his partner.”
One psychiatrist said according to his observation on his patients that women tend to like these forms of physical relation more than men. Men from conservative background either religious or muscular tend to refuse such closeness, however they welcome it outside marriage relations.
So we found out that it’s very hard to get information on sexual or intimate behaviors either from people or from scientific studies on the subject in Egypt. Hence, there is a great lack of understanding of our sexual and emotional needs. But, have you ever thought about what you are missing when not showering with your partner after sex?
A perfect completion
Why not celebrate after a glorious moment in bed? Showering together after orgasm can be the perfect completion of the sexual experience. Think of the mandatory 10 minutes post-sex cuddling time. It’s very important to complete the satisfaction for both partners. You can do it in the shower. If you feel the urge to run off to the shower to clean, which is normal, why not ask your partner to join before you head back to bed to rest.
It’s not about sex.
To hit the shower together after sex has beyond aspects; it extends intimacy. Intimacy is not a synonym for sexual. True, our society puts them together all the time, but that doesn’t make it so. Intimacy is a much deeper, when you allow yourself to open up and be yourself with your partner, you become more emotionally connected. You’ll discover together little intimate things like the touches, the kisses, the rubs, the gentle things that aren’t sexual in nature, but simply loving.
Breaking down barriers
Being naked together in the shower in bright light can be frightening at first, but will quickly begin to break down barriers. It will help you trust your partner with your insecurities, and that increases the trust in your relationship overall. This bit of clean fun and exchange of pleasantries will likely soften your hearts toward each other.
A bonus for the day
It’s fun man! Besides, showering together after sex cools you body and relives stress, therefore it’s a very pleasant memory to take into your day. It makes your day a lot easier to face. Sometimes it can start things up again in the shower and you get another bonus!
Hence, we encourage both partners to sit down and discuss this. If the partner just voices it, the other one (usually has no idea) will probably take an action or at least think about it. Then you may sing together “ ya kharga men bab el 7amam”!
Ashraf Hamdi’s ‘A Voice Note’ Returns With Another Heart-warming Story
Director/ Writer Ashraf Hamdi strikes again with the release of his latest VN14: “Only If Time Was..” and after one year of fans waiting around for another voice note, Hamdi didn’t disappoint and delivered an outstanding piece different than the others but still holds the same magic that we all fell for.
The Voice Note tells once again a love story, one that started with a spark but ended tragically, leaving us all in awe. It’s a story that shows chemistry between two but when bad timing interferes and fate gets in the way, it ends differently than one would have expected.
The Voice Note is featuring the beautiful Aya AbdelHamid and Khaled El Zommor with the voice-overs done by Hamdi and Heidy Ahmed and as usual is written, directed, edited by Hamdi. What makes it even more personalized this time, is that the entire music of the episode was composed from scratch and is courtesy of Ashraf El Ziftawi.
That was Hamdi’s first collaboration with a musical composer and he worked along Ashraf El Ziftawi for 3 months and before that they spent a year composing music for other commercials and work.
The music wasn’t the only highlight of the short film, but also the song at the end that was exclusively written and recorded for it, making the Voice Note more intriguing and special.
We spoke with Ashraf Hamdi regarding these collaborations and he told us how unusual it is for him to do such a thing but he loves collaborating with fresh, young talents and shedding the light on their work.
For those who don’t know, the Voice Note series is the creation of the brilliant Ashraf Hamdi where love stories are told through a voice note. Every Voice Note holds a story and every story was based on a meaningful inspiration.
In his stories, you can find ‘love you didn’t love’ or an experience that you relate to, or maybe a completion of a love story that you didn’t have the chance to completely live.
When asked why the VN14 took so long, his answer was simply that ‘you need to be inspired,” and we are so glad he did. He also revealed that he likes everything in the project to be very personalized, even the cast, he needs to connect with them and love them in a way.
We hope Hamdi stays inspired so we can get to witness more of his magic!
It’s Time You Walk Away When…
I hold my phone every other second, still, not a single word from him. I toss and I turn, not able to sleep, and I start to wonder, is he okay? What is he doing right now? Has he gone home safely? I’ll text and see. ‘No. Stop it. He’s fine not hearing from you.’ My overthinking begins to tell me.
Why is he okay not asking about me when I’m not? Well, maybe because this is my first sign that I should away.
1- They care less than you do
When your relationship starts getting fragile, it is important that the other person assures you that they have equal feelings. That you’re both in this together, and you will work it out, together. It should never be all on you, you shouldn’t be the only person making the effort. So stop being the quicker person to call, and stop worrying so much. Let them do the call, the texting, let them do the fixing. Because again, you’re in this together, or you’re out, you walk away.
2- They always make excuses not to meet
You want to meet up, go over things, discuss it like adults and come up with a plan, right? But it never happens, right? Because they always seem to find an excuse to get out of it, or they simply can’t do this same conversation again. They say they can’t do this fighting anymore, but when you’re fighting for your relationship, then it’s legitimate and if they can’t do it, they don’t deserve you.
3- They can’t be trusted
Relationships can lack several fundamentals, but one thing it should never lack, is trust. It is what relationships are built on, and once it is taken from the equation, the relationship falls. I’m not telling you to give up the second they do you wrong, but to earn your trust again, they should work hard for it, and this chance you are giving them, should never be taken for granted.
4- They are cold
The way they treat you is cold, the way they respond is cold, even the way they smile back at you is cold. This change in behavior can only be spotted by you, and when you start comparing their responses to the way it used to be, this is when you will get your answer.
Never allow yourself to be with someone, who just doesn’t seem to care anymore. Someone who’s keeping you, because they are being selfish, and not reasonable.
5- They exhibit an error in communication
Communication is a key to a healthy relationship, it’s important for the both of you to know that you’re standing on the same ground, that you both feel and want the same thing. It’s okay to experience some miscommunication, but what matters is for the both of you to admit having this issue; so you can work through it and get past it.
Try to allow the space for each of you to speak their minds, with no interruptions AT ALL. Listening is a key to understanding, and accepting that difference in your point of views, is another key.
I can never really tell you for sure that this is your cue to leave, because at the end, it’s not signs that you should follow, it is your intuition. So what does it tell you?
It’s Chocolate/Flower Day!
Today marks the 14th and in case you were too busy to shop the perfect gift, here’s a list of Instagram accounts and places that sell the cutest, most creative flowers and chocolates sets.
And even if you did buy a gift, flowers and chocolates are always a nice plus!
- The Batter Half& Co.
Known for their innovative desserts and customized cakes, the Batter half is making beautiful packages of desserts and flowers, basically a girl’s favorite things.
- Lariba chocolate.
The page is doing a fascinating chocolate related job, there is a variety of innovative chocolate shapes that surely will dazzle your one!
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Dazzle her with chocolate, the best way to say love on Valentine’s Day! LARIBA’s #Valentine’s_Day_Collection. #CHOCOLATE_WITH_A_CHARACTER www.eLARIBA.com #LARIBA #chocolate #LARIBAchocolate #chocolatier #Belgian_chocolate #gifts #collage #occasions #wedding #baby_shower #newborn #giveaways #celebrations #celebrities #corporate #tailored #unique #authentic #exclusive #finesse #luxury #Cairo #Egypt
- Bloom Dose.
They create an elegant mix between chocolates and flowers, the beauty is in balancing between both, and they have done it quite well.
- Box of roses.
Now, this is a personal favor, a box of perfectly set flowers that combines a vintage touch with a modern feel. And just FYI, a box of roses isn’t exclusive to a certain occasion.
They also have the famous Beauty & the Beast flower.
- Keni flower shop.
Another personal favorite thanks to the diversity of their flowers, both in types and colors.
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Forever rose – Special price 2 Days to go… Counting down the days VALENTINES DAY ❤️ #floret #blossom #roses#boxofroses #valentinegift #valentineoffer #valentineday2019 #bouquet #boxofgifts #tulips #blossom#florist #roses #redroses #foreverrose #foreverflowers #valentines #love #forher #giftforher #romance #giftforher
- Voila Dessert Shop.
They offer artistic gourmet chocolates assortment, that are both catchy to the eye and yummy for the tummy!
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Share your love with our indulgent gourmet chocolates assortment.. Happy Valentine's!! . . #voilacreations #excuisitelayers #dessert #dessertshop #voila #chocolatier #sharethelove #valentines #valentinesdesserts #redchocolates #valentines #chocolate #foodoflove #gourmetchocolate #bonbon #chocolatebox #delicious #treats #tasty #cairo #newcairo #delivery #obourcity #golfcity #obcommunity #mohandesin #mohandseen #cairoeats #egypt
Hope this list add an extra flavor to your day. Happy valentine’s and may the odds be in your favor!
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