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Behind closed doors

Published

5 months ago

December 15, 2018

Yara K

Behind every closed door is a story, some of its chapters are happy and others are sad. The heroes are familiar people, might be a friend or an acquaintance. Most of the times, those stories are left untold, because who would speak about family issues?

Within those closed doors are another closed one, where a person suffers silently from these issues. But when morning comes, that person wakes up, opens the closed door and walks out of it, like nothing is wrong.

Those are the strongest people, who manage to leave their troubles behind the closed doors. The kind who can still listen to your problems without disparaging them, they listen even when they have got troubles on their own. They care and they never belittle anyone’s ache because they know quite well what it feels like to suffer in silence.

Behind closed doors are secrets that people exert so much effort to keep them tucked inside, to keep those aches and sufferings hidden away from people.

This is why, always be gentle with people; because you will never know their stories, their sorrows, their pain. And when someone opens the door to you and allows you in, help them clear the mess, replace the aches with comfort and help create a safer haven for them. Because trust me when I tell you that it’s never easy for someone to share the things that happen behind closed doors, it’s never easy for strong people to admit that they need help after living independently for years.

I know that when they open up, they’ll seem so sad to you, so broken and damaged. But they weren’t always like this. They had light in them that is now dimmed with all the issues they face, and all they need is someone who understands, to be there for them, to help bring out the light.

So be patient with the broken, don’t give up on them; because they have only come this way after giving out pieces of themselves to all those in need for comfort, a word of advice, or even a shoulder to lean on.

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Grey’s Anatomy: The Valuable Life Lessons of the Show

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2 weeks ago

May 12, 2019

Yara K

The doctors of Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital are up for more shifts, as ABC announced the renewal of Grey’s Anatomy for two more seasons, which means the show will run for at least through its 17th season!

This makes the show the longest running medical drama of all time.

The TV series is certainly one of the best dramas to follow, not only is it entertaining, but the issues tackled in the episodes from racism to sexism and violence, are what make the show a high rated one.

Now, if you aren’t into Grey’s Anatomy, here are the life lessons that I, personally, learned from the show. Ones that will get you encouraged to watch the series, and if you’re a fan already, then you will cherish the following:

1- You are the sun, and no one should steal your shine.

It doesn’t matter how much you love someone, you should always set your priorities straight. Don’t let anyone’s wants eclipse your dreams, because you are the sun and you make your own needs come true.

2- No one will ever love you as much as your parents.

The people who raised you will always have the most love for you. And even if your relationship with one of them is unstable, find it in your heart to forgive them.

3- If you love someone, tell them, no matter what.

I’ll just leave Mark Sloan’s quote in here, “If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you’re scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it’ll cause problems. Even if you’re scared that it will burn your life to the ground, you say it, and you say it loud and you go from there. ”

4- It’s okay to be dark and twisty at times.

Meredith Grey taught us that it’s okay to have dark thoughts at times, to feel vulnerable and weak. It doesn’t matter if you have someone by your side, to always grab you when you are at your lowest. To remind you of the things in you, that are worthy of love. The relationship between Meredith and Derek, is quite the example for two people loving each other unconditionally, despite one’s flaws.

5- You fight for the one you love.

Even when it’s against all odds, and against all the expectations. If you love someone, you fight for them. It may seem like the impossible, but you have got to show them that you care and that no burden, no matter how huge, can stand in your way. Again, look at Meredith and Derek and how they fought for each other across the years.

6- No running from relationships.

For that, I will leave the vows that Meredith and Derek promised each other, on their post it marriage. And remember, love each other even when you hate each other.

7. Sometimes, horrible people deserve forgiveness.

You always have to think of one’s actions from their place, no one is born obnoxious. I believe it is an acquired attitude from the things they have been through in life. If those people are met with compassion, they can change. Just look at Alex Karev, and how love and friendship changed his personality entirely.

The life lessons are countless, and the issues that the show discusses will leave you stunned. My advice is to binge watch the show, that will certainly change your perspective on A LOT.

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When it is You Who Sometimes Hold Yourself Back

Published

4 weeks ago

April 28, 2019

Yara K

How does one hold their own self back? simple, you overthink, you over-analyze and you doubt yourself. You doubt it so hard that it starts to listen to you, and I for one, am a victim of my own self.

It started a long while ago, but the effects of it wasn’t that apparent. It wasn’t until I started working that I have realized what my own mind is doing to me.

When I was in college, I doubted my capabilities, and never thought that I was smart enough to do better. Always considered myself, as a regular. A regular student, and a regular person. And that caused me to fail behind, big time.

Now that I graduated and working, the doubts are more, even if I get praised for work, I still consider my work as ‘not enough’. And that is causing me to breakdown every once in a while. I overthink every detail, and now it’s not only affecting my work, but also my relationships with the ones I love dearly.

It is all in my head, I now know that quite well, the trick though, is not only to recognize this, but to fight it!

Fight the thoughts in your head that tell you ‘you’re incapable’, fight them with all your might and find the strength to think positively and highly about yourself.

One thing I also started doing, and is helping me a lot, is keeping an agenda with me everyday, documenting all the things that I have done; thus keeping track of my performance.

I remind myself everyday that I’m smarter than I think, and I am doing better than I believe.

Overthinking isn’t only holding you back, but it is also causing a mental toll that you are too young to bear. Learning to refute it is the key, also having someone supportive to remind you what a good person you are, is important.

It is that kind of support and encouragement that got me through senior year, and is helping me excel at work despite my dark thoughts.

I pray everyday for my mind to go easy on me, and I certainly wish the same for all the troubles minds out-there…

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On love, Conditions, Obstacles and Irrationality

Published

1 month ago

April 18, 2019

Yara K

Do we fall instantly in love? No, because that wouldn’t be real, we can get a crush on someone and by time, that crush develops. But can we stop it? That click you get at the sight of that one person, is it stoppable?

I believe not. Because once you click, there’s no going back.

Let me count with you the many clicks that happen in reaction to that person’s most little actions, they laugh, click. They smile, click. They blush, click. The tease you, click. They make you laugh, click, click. They make you cry, cl..ick, click. They mess with their hair, click. They mess with yours, click.

Let me put some math in there to make this article sounds smart, the amount of clicks you get per day is directly proportional to the time you’ll fall in love, in other words, the more the clicks are, the faster you’ll fall in love.

This is love, and below are the conditions:

Girl code

You’re not to click with your best friend’s ex, because this is the rule, you can’t fall in love with your friend’s ex, but what if that one person is the one you’re meant to be with, what if that person brings you happiness and ultimate joy, peace and serenity, what if that person is the one? And you never got to find out because girl code. Guess you just have to deal with it, right?

Your ex

They said your ex had become an ex for a reason, true, what if it was bad timing? What if it was immaturity? What if now is a good time and we’re mature? Guess you won’t find out because ‘integrity’ and ‘dignity’ shall stop you.

Your complete opposite

That person that everyone tells you is not right for you, who’s different in almost everything and does things the opposite way, you fight a lot and people speak about how you two could never end up together and you start believing them, after all it’s what everyone says, except for your heart who thinks the complete opposite. But who listens to their heart anymore?

The irrationality is in clicking with someone from the first place and you know isn’t just right, clicking with someone who goes against the rules, how could you allow your heart to sink so deep? How did you allow your mind to drift to places to where that person is? How can you stop loving someone when all what you do is think of him? Why think of him? How could you?

Silly, isn’t it? To ask someone to stop clicking, to set boundaries to the one thing in life that happens spontaneously, the one thing that has the power to get you off your feet and up in the air, but then comes these boundaries and get hold of your feet, and bring you down to your knees. Because conditions, because rationality.