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Am I Perfect? Are You Perfect?

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What is it to be perfect? What is perfection? How can a word so common amongst the masses of people be also understood by some to be referring to that which does not exist?

Of course perfection exists. My mom is perfect. My dad too. And other things are perfect as well, like my favorite meal. But wait, how can my parents be perfect at the same time as when I, at times, see other parents and I would wish my parents were like them? Well, my favorite meal is that which my mom makes, and is definitely perfect–at least when my mom makes it. Yet what if I find that my best friend’s mom makes it better? Or even more radically, what if I find out that sushi tastes a thousand times better than that which I consider perfect, and is my favorite meal? Then in that case, my perfect meal would no longer be perfect; I would have discovered that which is more perfect. And so too my parents: no matter how many particular characteristics I would want my parents to have, each time they acquired one, I’d still find myself thinking that other parents have at least one more characteristic that makes them more perfect.

This notion that the measurement of perfection is constantly changing, I find specifically interesting. Even if we reach that level which we had labeled as being perfect, we reach it and do not end up finding perfection. Let us consider an example. Suppose that my girlfriend asks me about my opinion with regards to her body. I respond by saying “if you lose two pounds, you will be perfect.” Now, suppose that my girlfriend lost those two pounds and some time later approaches me with the same question, but this time I reply saying that her body is amazing, but she needs to work on her butt. So, what has happened here?

I claim that we create the state of what we call “perfection” when we recognize that something could improve, or could change to the “better.” In other words, when I tell my girlfriend that losing two pounds would lead her to having the perfect body, I thereby create a mirage of perfection. An illusory state of affairs that is never really attained. Because once my girlfriend has dropped those two pounds, I would want her to work on her butt, for that would lead her to be more perfect.

So what can we do? How can we perceive this notion of perfection? I suggest that we need to refine our notion of what perfection is. The obvious issue here is the mirage. We would have to create a notion of perfection that cannot be altered by a change in state of affairs. So to use my previous example, my girlfriend is good enough the way she is now–her weight is perfect. Dropping two pounds would not make her perfect; dropping two pounds would rather place me in a position where I start to look for other things that would make her perfect. But there remains to know the difference between that which is perfect, and that which is good enough. I don’t know whether or not such a difference exists, but I do know that something that is not sustainable cannot be perfect.

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The Kissing Booth 2 is happening!

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Netflix just dropped the nicest valentine’s gift that everyone has been waiting for since forever; as they have finally confirmed that The kissing Booth 2 is happening!

The news follows the announcement that Netflix’s other teen loved movie, ‘To All The Boys I’ve ever Loved Before’, is ALSO getting a sequel, and fans are going nuts.

According to some recent press release, the movie is currently under production phase, and filming will start up soon.

Co-star, Joel Courtney, made the announcement yesterday, through his twitter account.

King also tweeted out the promo video, with the caption: “YUP!!! WE’RE GETTING A SEQUEL!”

If you’re not on your tip toes by now, WHAT ARE YOU DOING? The movie is a Netflix hit, and basically the new ’10 things I hate about you’ of this generation.

The movie was also the most re-watched on the streaming site of 2018.

Release date is expected to be in 2020.

 

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Small things that are worthy of your attention

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Celebrate the little things that you fall for more often that you realize, these are the things that are worth your attention.

Count them, appreciate them and know that love comes in many ways, and sometimes its simplest form is what counts the most.

  1. Your mother’s unconditional love.
  2. Your morning coffee.
  3. The feeling after the first sip kicks in the caffeine.
  4. The smell of weather at 6 am.
  5. That winter breeze after long summer days.
  6. Your skin sensation after doing a skincare routine.
  7. That feeling that follows a good workout.
  8. Gatherings after being parted for a long while.
  9. Airport hugs.
  10. Morning hugs from your hubby.
  11. Walking your dog.
  12. Long fulfilling talks.
  13. The smell of freshly baked eatery.
  14. A good meal after hunger strikes.
  15. A sudden phone call from a long-distance friend.
  16. Finishing a good book.
  17. Having the time to enjoy your hobbies.
  18. Car rides with your favorite people.
  19. While listening to your favorite tunes.
  20. The sound of your favorite song on the radio.
  21. A good hair day.
  22. Sense of accomplishment.
  23. Finishing an assignment right before the deadline.
  24. Having breakfast by the Nile.
  25. Road trips.
  26. Attending your best friend’s wedding.
  27. Netflix and chill.
  28. Trying a new food, and liking it.
  29. Getting lost in a foreign city.
  30. Achieving a long-term goal.
  31. The smile of a new born baby.
  32. Seeing your loved one graduate.
  33. And witnessing them grow into the person they’re meant to become.
  34. Morning walk, hand in hand, with someone you love.
  35. Receiving a gift that you have casually mentioned wanting it.
  36. Buying someone a gift they have been looking for.
  37. And seeing them happy because of you.
  38. Helping someone get through a rough time.
  39. Managing to eat healthy.
  40. And the taste of junk food after a long diet.
  41. Doing a selfless deed.
  42. Reuniting with your pet after a long hectic day.
  43. A good night sleep.
  44. For not having to set an alarm.
  45. Buying a new notebook.
  46. Last day of exams.
  47. Family gatherings, and seeing them happy.
  48. Making your parents proud.
  49. Making YOURSELF proud.
  50. Having gratitude for all of the above.

You can be single on Valentine’s and still find a way, by yourself, to celebrate love. Choose a thing or two from above, that make you happy and do them. Because why celebrate one day a year, when everyday there are many things to be celebrated?

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A Journey towards self-love Pt1

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What makes us love people? It never really takes us a long while to realize that this person appeals to us, we instantly click at times; because one thing that they say will relate to us, one action will get us hooked. Whether that person will become a partner or a friend, we always choose those who are like us, with similar preferences, ones who bring us joy.

Why do you love him? They asked.

I answered with the usual “I don’t know.” But I did, somehow. It was just too extravagant to explain. I loved the shape his mouth took when a smile takes over his face, and that is why I would stare too long, way longer than I should. I loved how little he can do and yet be able to make me feel good, like nothing else mattered. As if his presence along with his smile is a whole other universe to where I belong, it was all that mattered.

Ask a person why they love their significant other and they probably wouldn’t know, ask a mother how she can tolerate so much, she probably wouldn’t know either. Because most of the times, it is this unconditional love that ease everything.

Now I wonder, why couldn’t I have loved myself as much?

Did I spend so much time loving others that I have forgotten to love myself first? I was only 13 when I started loving my best friends and I still love them to the moment. Have I loved my significant other way too much that my heart didn’t find a space to love both of us?

Now the thing is, you never really know how to define yourself, when we’re loved, we ask why? Maybe it’s the insecurities that make us wonder how can we be loved, or maybe it’s because the way we view ourselves is different than the way people perceive us. I think the reason we sometimes fail to love ourselves is because we define it based on how people perceive us.

“You’re too much to handle.”

“You were a bad friend.”

“Your insecurities will always keep you behind.”

Your friends tell you you’re beautiful, yet you find it hard to believe. They will love you and accept you, yet you still will question yourself. Because of all the above, when a person says something else, you’ll find yourself believing it over the good stuff that you were told. Because who’d say hurtful things and not mean it? But the others? The others are just complimenting you, right?

This is your first step towards loving yourself and that is to define it based on what your inner self tells you and not by the way people perceive you, give yourself the same amount of care you give to others.

At the end, you attract those who are like you, and if you find them so lovable, then it is just a reflection of yourself.

 

 

 

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