Ever loved someone so much but still caused them pain? Unintentional pain that you try to soothe but fail? The process of love is long, one that requires patience and understanding but along the way, you may stumble upon challenges that will require only one thing, courage.
Courage to accept that it’s time to walk away. Bravery in admitting that you’re causing more damage than good. Sometimes you tighten your grip on someone, thinking this is love, this is me not giving up. When truth is, actual relief is in loosening your grip and letting go.
One question still remains, how to know that it is time for you to let go?
Well, the answer is you never really know. There are however, signs that should direct your feelings and they are what follows:
1- When you no longer add value to that person.
In both relationships and friendships, there has to be a mutual and beneficial bond. If you feel like you’re not adding value to that person or vice versa, then it is a strong sign. You’re supposed to not only help each other grow, but to also cherish the growth of one another, it shouldn’t scare you to see your partner thrives.
2- The scale of harm outweighs the good.
The damage at times may go unnoticed, because it causes mental sickness that can’t be always explained. This will appear in not wanting to talk anymore, and that is when your significant other may take it as a sign of giving up, when really all you want is for all the fighting to end. Without all the blaming, and fingers being pointed.
3- You’re both holding on to your rage.
At a certain point, you’ll both have to give up on your opinions on who is right and wrong, you’ll just have to accept the dead end of a discussion and move past it. If you can’t let go of your anger, then it’s definitely a bad sign. Compromising should extend to accepting the indifference of opinions, and moving on.
4- The trust is gone.
Breaking someone’s trust happens in a second, a situation or even a word. But for you to regain this trust, it takes longer, way longer. And this is the one thing that you can never push into happening quickly.
5- You’re just… drained.
Relationships require so much effort, that’s for sure. But is it really supposed to be this hard? There will come a time when you’ll feel like giving up, but a greater pull will stop you, and that’s love. But in certain cases, love won’t be enough.
When you can no longer understand each other, when the ground you’re standing on starts to shake, and all the things that brought you once together start to blur. The base of strong relationships isn’t love alone, it’s love, respect, understanding and patience. When these values begin to fade, your relationship starts to hang on a very thin thread.
It’s love that will push you to try and be worthy of someone’s love, to try over and over again. But when you start to feel that your absence would be a remedy, a bless, then that is your cue to leave.
Ashraf Hamdi’s ‘A Voice Note’ Returns With Another Heart-warming Story
Director/ Writer Ashraf Hamdi strikes again with the release of his latest VN14: “Only If Time Was..” and after one year of fans waiting around for another voice note, Hamdi didn’t disappoint and delivered an outstanding piece different than the others but still holds the same magic that we all fell for.
The Voice Note tells once again a love story, one that started with a spark but ended tragically, leaving us all in awe. It’s a story that shows chemistry between two but when bad timing interferes and fate gets in the way, it ends differently than one would have expected.
The Voice Note is featuring the beautiful Aya AbdelHamid and Khaled El Zommor with the voice-overs done by Hamdi and Heidy Ahmed and as usual is written, directed, edited by Hamdi. What makes it even more personalized this time, is that the entire music of the episode was composed from scratch and is courtesy of Ashraf El Ziftawi.
That was Hamdi’s first collaboration with a musical composer and he worked along Ashraf El Ziftawi for 3 months and before that they spent a year composing music for other commercials and work.
The music wasn’t the only highlight of the short film, but also the song at the end that was exclusively written and recorded for it, making the Voice Note more intriguing and special.
We spoke with Ashraf Hamdi regarding these collaborations and he told us how unusual it is for him to do such a thing but he loves collaborating with fresh, young talents and shedding the light on their work.
For those who don’t know, the Voice Note series is the creation of the brilliant Ashraf Hamdi where love stories are told through a voice note. Every Voice Note holds a story and every story was based on a meaningful inspiration.
In his stories, you can find ‘love you didn’t love’ or an experience that you relate to, or maybe a completion of a love story that you didn’t have the chance to completely live.
When asked why the VN14 took so long, his answer was simply that ‘you need to be inspired,” and we are so glad he did. He also revealed that he likes everything in the project to be very personalized, even the cast, he needs to connect with them and love them in a way.
We hope Hamdi stays inspired so we can get to witness more of his magic!
It’s Time You Walk Away When…
I hold my phone every other second, still, not a single word from him. I toss and I turn, not able to sleep, and I start to wonder, is he okay? What is he doing right now? Has he gone home safely? I’ll text and see. ‘No. Stop it. He’s fine not hearing from you.’ My overthinking begins to tell me.
Why is he okay not asking about me when I’m not? Well, maybe because this is my first sign that I should away.
1- They care less than you do
When your relationship starts getting fragile, it is important that the other person assures you that they have equal feelings. That you’re both in this together, and you will work it out, together. It should never be all on you, you shouldn’t be the only person making the effort. So stop being the quicker person to call, and stop worrying so much. Let them do the call, the texting, let them do the fixing. Because again, you’re in this together, or you’re out, you walk away.
2- They always make excuses not to meet
You want to meet up, go over things, discuss it like adults and come up with a plan, right? But it never happens, right? Because they always seem to find an excuse to get out of it, or they simply can’t do this same conversation again. They say they can’t do this fighting anymore, but when you’re fighting for your relationship, then it’s legitimate and if they can’t do it, they don’t deserve you.
3- They can’t be trusted
Relationships can lack several fundamentals, but one thing it should never lack, is trust. It is what relationships are built on, and once it is taken from the equation, the relationship falls. I’m not telling you to give up the second they do you wrong, but to earn your trust again, they should work hard for it, and this chance you are giving them, should never be taken for granted.
4- They are cold
The way they treat you is cold, the way they respond is cold, even the way they smile back at you is cold. This change in behavior can only be spotted by you, and when you start comparing their responses to the way it used to be, this is when you will get your answer.
Never allow yourself to be with someone, who just doesn’t seem to care anymore. Someone who’s keeping you, because they are being selfish, and not reasonable.
5- They exhibit an error in communication
Communication is a key to a healthy relationship, it’s important for the both of you to know that you’re standing on the same ground, that you both feel and want the same thing. It’s okay to experience some miscommunication, but what matters is for the both of you to admit having this issue; so you can work through it and get past it.
Try to allow the space for each of you to speak their minds, with no interruptions AT ALL. Listening is a key to understanding, and accepting that difference in your point of views, is another key.
I can never really tell you for sure that this is your cue to leave, because at the end, it’s not signs that you should follow, it is your intuition. So what does it tell you?
It’s Chocolate/Flower Day!
Today marks the 14th and in case you were too busy to shop the perfect gift, here’s a list of Instagram accounts and places that sell the cutest, most creative flowers and chocolates sets.
And even if you did buy a gift, flowers and chocolates are always a nice plus!
- The Batter Half& Co.
Known for their innovative desserts and customized cakes, the Batter half is making beautiful packages of desserts and flowers, basically a girl’s favorite things.
- Lariba chocolate.
The page is doing a fascinating chocolate related job, there is a variety of innovative chocolate shapes that surely will dazzle your one!
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Dazzle her with chocolate, the best way to say love on Valentine’s Day! LARIBA’s #Valentine’s_Day_Collection. #CHOCOLATE_WITH_A_CHARACTER www.eLARIBA.com #LARIBA #chocolate #LARIBAchocolate #chocolatier #Belgian_chocolate #gifts #collage #occasions #wedding #baby_shower #newborn #giveaways #celebrations #celebrities #corporate #tailored #unique #authentic #exclusive #finesse #luxury #Cairo #Egypt
- Bloom Dose.
They create an elegant mix between chocolates and flowers, the beauty is in balancing between both, and they have done it quite well.
- Box of roses.
Now, this is a personal favor, a box of perfectly set flowers that combines a vintage touch with a modern feel. And just FYI, a box of roses isn’t exclusive to a certain occasion.
They also have the famous Beauty & the Beast flower.
- Keni flower shop.
Another personal favorite thanks to the diversity of their flowers, both in types and colors.
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Forever rose – Special price 2 Days to go… Counting down the days VALENTINES DAY ❤️ #floret #blossom #roses#boxofroses #valentinegift #valentineoffer #valentineday2019 #bouquet #boxofgifts #tulips #blossom#florist #roses #redroses #foreverrose #foreverflowers #valentines #love #forher #giftforher #romance #giftforher
- Voila Dessert Shop.
They offer artistic gourmet chocolates assortment, that are both catchy to the eye and yummy for the tummy!
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Share your love with our indulgent gourmet chocolates assortment.. Happy Valentine's!! . . #voilacreations #excuisitelayers #dessert #dessertshop #voila #chocolatier #sharethelove #valentines #valentinesdesserts #redchocolates #valentines #chocolate #foodoflove #gourmetchocolate #bonbon #chocolatebox #delicious #treats #tasty #cairo #newcairo #delivery #obourcity #golfcity #obcommunity #mohandesin #mohandseen #cairoeats #egypt
Hope this list add an extra flavor to your day. Happy valentine’s and may the odds be in your favor!
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